This is a list for new and old fathers alike. I am new to fatherhood myself but along the way I have picked up a few tips and tricks that just may save our sanity, patience, and will power. Read on and enjoy.
1: New born babies cry. It’s what they do. Get over it early and try to learn their different cries. YES, they cry differently when they are hungry and when they have pooped in their diaper. Connect with the baby and learn from them. They need your comfort.
2: Learn to change diaper’s. If you’re a father and you’ve never changed a diaper, you better believe that your wife has expressed this to her friends, her mother (probably your mother), and the mailman. Simply put…“Father’s” change diapers. Your father probably changed yours so repay the favor.
3: Learn to install car seats the right way. Once you become a seasoned father you will begin what I call the car seat carousel. This happens when you have your family and in-laws watch your kids and you have to change all the car seats from car to car. Just figure out how each one works and get proficient at installing it. You will thank me later.
4: Little girls have hormones, just like their mother. We might not want to hear that but it’s true. They will cry, create drama, pitch fits, cry some more, and storm off. Don’t let it get to you. Even I have a hard time with this so maybe we can work on this one together.
5: You need alone time with your wife. You can’t be parenting all the time without also trying to keeps the stitches of your marriage together. Having children takes a toll on a marriage because that child becomes something that the parents love even more than they love each other and that’s hard to process sometimes. Make time for each other because it will make for a better family dynamic and happier parents make for happier kids.
6: Find a hobby. You have to find something that you like to do outside of work, marriage, and parenting. Find whatever makes you happy and go all in. Exercise is a great way to relieve stress and the local YMCA in your area probably has day care. Drop the kids off and go take your stress out on some weights or a Zumba class.
7: Have a movie night with popcorn. If you have small children, nothing will light up their faces more than telling them they can stay up a little late and eat popcorn while watching a Disney movie and snuggling on the floor. Just try it! You won’t be sorry.
8: Children will manipulate you. Every child learns how to manipulate their parents and it is up to us to recognize that and either stop it or let it slide. That is your choice as a parent. Just be prepared because when they learn to manipulate you out of an extra Popsicle at 3 years old, they will also learn to manipulate you out of extra money at 13 years old.
9: Tell them that you LOVE them. Don’t just say it to them. TELL them. Look at them daily and tell them that you love them and be prepared to cry when they say it back for the first time. Cherish every minute because we can never get it back. It’s okay to cry once every five years guys….really.
10: Finally…YODO!: “You only Dad once”. This is a term I made up recently as a joke but it actually helps me to remember that my kids are growing fast and I am the only Dad they have. So because I am a joker of a father I made up this catchy tune…”Be the best Dad ever ’cause You Only Dad Once!”
Fathers…never judge yourself against another father. We are all in this together. We are all struggling to get the kids fed, in the bath, to bed, or in the car. All across the world there are fathers trying to calm crying babies and listening to a three years old girl give a lecture about throwing away her old Play-doh. It will be okay. Stand strong and remember that time always moves forward. We will never get these seconds back. Before we know it, these children of ours will be teenagers and then adults and we will forever wish we had these seconds back.
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